Addition and multiplication commute, and addition is associative, so the first three hold for every choice of numbers.
9−4=5,4−9=5
Since a and b are different, one of them is the larger, as 9 and 4 are here. Taking the smaller from the larger leaves something above zero, while the reversed subtraction drops below zero. The two sides could only agree if a and b were equal, and they are not, so a−b=b−a must be false.